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Different Types of Love in the Bible and How They Were Modeled by Jesus
In the Bible, love is the essence of God’s character and the defining quality of his selfless, life-giving relationship with humanity. The biblical authors display the meaning of love through stories, poetry, and discourse. Hebrew words such as khesed (loyal love) and ahavah (affectionate, caring love) teach us about specific qualities essential to the concept of real love. And Greek terms such as agápe (divine love) and philia (familial love) emphasize the unique ways that God, friends, family, partners, and enemies can love one another. Beyond specific terms, the overarching story of the Bible ultimately describes love as the act of putting others before oneself—serving the interest and well-being of another.
The love of God can describe God’s love for humanity or humanity’s love for God. The biblical authors show us how God’s love for humanity is selfless, just, and unbreakable. They also show how God acts in love toward people, and how people respond to God’s love, while inviting readers to love God with everything they’ve got.
Everywhere! The whole Bible displays God’s love and demonstrates how humans love (or neglect to love) God and one another. Here are a few examples of the way the Bible talks about love.
Once you learn to look for it, you’ll see that the entire Bible talks about love.
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The Loyal Love of God
The biblical authors use storytelling, poetry, and discourse to describe love. We can relate to the characters and emotions as they learn the meaning of love through the plot of a story (e.g., Luke 15:11-32) or the metaphors used in poetry (e.g., Song of Songs 8:6-7). We can also find direct messages about the self-giving nature of love in discourse texts (letters/epistles) like 1 John 3:16: “We know love by this, that [Jesus] laid down his life for us.”
In 1 Corinthians 13:1-8, Paul describes the nature and activity of real love. He says that even if we do impressive things with great faith, none of it matters if we do not have love. A loving person has learned to be patient, kind, hopeful, and enduring. A loving person turns away from all forms of violence or coercion and refuses to entertain jealous, boastful, arrogant, rude, selfish, or quick-tempered thoughts and behaviors.
John says that God is love (1 John 4:16). In other words, it is the essence of who God is. So when we learn to love in the way the Bible describes love, we are learning to live according to God’s character.
That’s right. Through storytelling, poetry, and discourse, biblical authors display the nature of God’s love while showing how others respond with love (or lack of love) to him and others.
The Big Idea
The Bible ultimately describes love as the act of putting others before oneself—serving the interest and well-being of another.
In the Hebrew Bible, the authors symbolize love through characters in stories, such as the story of Ruth’s faithful relationship to her mother-in-law, Naomi (Ruth 1:14-22). In Song of Songs, the author compares love to a banner (Song of Songs 2:4), representing one’s allegiance and loyalty. And when Moses raises the bronze serpent so that the people can live (Num. 21:6-9), it is a symbol of God’s healing love. Jesus recalls this symbol when he is teaching about his own love for humanity (John 3:14-16).
And not only does blood symbolize life and death in the Bible, it also becomes a poignant symbol of love. Losing blood means losing life, and humbly giving one’s life for the well-being of another is the ultimate form of love. We see this most notably in the sacrifice of Jesus. The biblical authors say that Jesus poured out his blood for the good of all humanity (Matt. 26:28; 1 John 1:7)—the ultimate act of love.
The whole Bible tells the story of God’s love for humanity through these and many other symbols.
The Bible has a lot to say about love—authors use several terms to describe love, and they refer to it hundreds of times throughout Scripture. Here are a few key quotes to start with.
Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever.
For God so loved the world, that he gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish, but have eternal life. For God did not send the Son into the world to judge the world, but that the world might be saved through him.
A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.
For one will hardly die for a righteous man; though perhaps for the good man someone would dare even to die. But God demonstrates his own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.
If I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but do not have love, I have become a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy, and know all mysteries and all knowledge; and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. And if I give all my possessions to feed the poor, and if I surrender my body to be burned, but do not have love, it profits me nothing. Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails; but if there are gifts of prophecy, they will be done away; if there are tongues, they will cease; if there is knowledge, it will be done away.
Since you have purified your souls in obedience to the truth for a sincere love of the brothers and sisters, fervently love one another from the heart.
We know love by this, that he laid down his life for us; and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren. But whoever has the world's goods, and sees his brother in need and closes his heart against him, how does the love of God abide in him?
We have come to know and have believed the love which God has for us. God is love, and the one who abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him.
The Apostle Paul describes love in several letters, perhaps most famously in 1 Corinthians. He says even if we do good deeds and have strong spiritual gifts and faith, none of it matters without love. Paul then gives us a practical list to explain what love looks like—what it does and does not do. Love is patient, kind, hopeful, and enduring. Love is not jealous, boastful, arrogant, rude, selfish, or quick-tempered (1 Cor. 13:1-8).
John, a disciple of Jesus and an apostle, says that God is love (1 John 4:16). Love characterizes God’s core essence. We see examples of God’s patient, kind, and enduring love throughout the Scriptures, especially in the story of Jesus’ non-violent responses to Roman oppression and religious coercion. Rather than fighting back with the power of force, he humbly offers his own life to bless and heal all humanity (1 John 3:16). Jesus’ selfless and compassionate treatment toward all people (including his enemies) shows us what true love looks like.
Jesus taught about the nature of true love. And he didn’t just talk about it—he actively loved everyone he met without partiality.
Here are a few examples of Jesus’ words about love.
You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I say to you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven; for He causes His sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.
[Jesus] turned toward the woman, and said to Simon, “Do you see this woman? I entered your house; you gave Me no water for My feet, but she has wet My feet with her tears and wiped them with her hair. You gave Me no kiss; but she, since the time I came in, has not ceased to kiss My feet. You did not anoint My head with oil, but she anointed My feet with perfume. For this reason I say to you, her sins, which are many, have been forgiven, for she loved much; but he who is forgiven little, loves little.
No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.
This is my commandment, that you love one another, just as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that a person will lay down his life for his friends.
Here are a few examples of Jesus’ loving actions.
Now before the Feast of the Passover, Jesus knowing that His hour had come that He would depart out of this world to the Father, having loved His own who were in the world, He loved them to the end. During supper, the devil having already put into the heart of Judas Iscariot, the son of Simon, to betray Him, Jesus, knowing that the Father had given all things into His hands, and that He had come forth from God and was going back to God, *got up from supper, and *laid aside His garments; and taking a towel, He girded Himself. Then He *poured water into the basin, and began to wash the disciples’ feet and to wipe them with the towel with which He was girded.
As He was setting out on a journey, a man ran up to Him and knelt before Him, and asked Him, “Good Teacher, what shall I do to inherit eternal life?” And Jesus said to him, “Why do you call Me good? No one is good except God alone. You know the commandments, ‘Do not murder, Do not commit adultery, Do not steal, Do not bear false witness, Do not defraud, Honor your father and mother.’ ” And he said to Him, “Teacher, I have kept all these things from my youth up.” Looking at him, Jesus felt a love for him and said to him, “One thing you lack: go and sell all you possess and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow Me."
And when they came to the place called The Skull, there they crucified him and the criminals, one on the right and the other on the left. But Jesus was saying, "Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing." And they cast lots, dividing his garments among themselves.
Because the whole Bible points to God’s ultimate act of love in Jesus, every book of the Bible is, in its own way, about the love of God. But there are specific books of the Bible where the theme of love takes a more central role. Here are a few examples.
Once you learn to look for it, you’ll see that the entire Bible talks about love.
The Bible is a collection of stories that point to God’s ultimate act of love in Jesus. Every biblical narrative can be seen as part of one story that teaches us about God’s love for humanity. However, some story collections are about the human rejection of God’s love. And there are other stories that show people giving their lives and everything they have in order to love God and others well. The biblical authors also capture various kinds of love between friends, relatives, spouses, and even enemies. Here are a few examples of biblical love stories.
Jesus teaches us that the ultimate test of real love is how well we treat others, especially those who harm us or cannot offer anything in return. When Jesus is physically assaulted, he does not return violence. When he is maligned, falsely accused, and mistreated in many ways, he does not respond with the same kinds of attitudes or behaviors. Instead, Jesus teaches people to do good toward all, including their opposers. We are to be generous, forgiving, and compassionate without preference. We see Jesus embody this lifestyle as many harm him, yet he never returns harm in any way.
But I say to you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.
Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who are abusive towards you.
Love your enemies and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return; and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High; for he himself is kind to ungrateful and evil people.
This kind of love is essential to God’s nature. And because the New Testament authors describe Jesus as the incarnation of God himself, this divine love is the defining aspect of Jesus’ generous lifestyle.
In the book of Mark, Jesus responds to a question from the scribes about which of God’s commands are the most important of all. He says, “Hear, O Israel! The Lord is our God, the Lord is one; and you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind, and with all your strength. And you shall love your neighbor as yourself.” Notice how he fused two commands into one: “There is no other commandment greater than these.” (Mark 12:29-31)
Loving our neighbors is important to God, so much so that he describes loving one’s neighbor as one aspect of loving God himself. The two are different parts of the same love. So what does loving our neighbor look like?
In the Bible, love includes positive affection for others, but it also transcends a person’s emotions to include actions—the way a person cares for the well-being of another. Loving one’s neighbor is about actively caring for the neighbor’s health and well-being in the same way we might care for our own lives. And Jesus takes it a step further, inviting his followers to consider the radical way he has been loving and caring for them, and he tells them to do the same for their neighbors (John 13:34).
To learn more about what it means to love our neighbors, especially when they happen to be enemies, dive into day 10 of our Youversion reading plan, “A Journey Through Luke & Acts.”
Loving one another is about attitude and action. It means listening to each other, remaining patient, and forgiving each others' faults or weaknesses. It’s about working for the health and well-being of the other, generously caring for the person, and learning to see the inherent beauty and good in one another.
Love is the distinguishing mark of all of Jesus’ followers, and we are able to love in this radical way because of the self-giving love of Jesus. His love empowers his followers to love each other with the same patience, devotion, and fervency he showed to them.
There are many biblical examples of what it means to love one another. Here are a few.
Love one another just as I [Jesus] have loved you.
By this all people will know that you are my disciples: if you have love for one another.
Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor; not lagging behind in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord; rejoicing in hope, persevering in tribulation, devoted to prayer, contributing to the needs of the saints, practicing hospitality.
Owe nothing to anyone except to love one another; for the one who loves his neighbor has fulfilled the Law.
For you were called to freedom, brothers and sisters; only do not turn your freedom into an opportunity for the flesh, but serve one another through love.
... with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love ...
Since you have purified your souls in obedience to the truth for a sincere love of the brothers and sisters, fervently love one another from the heart.
Above all, keep fervent in your love for one another because love covers a multitude of sins.
This is his commandment, that we believe in the name of his Son, Jesus Christ, and love one another just as he commanded us.
For this is the message which you have heard from the beginning, that we are to love one another.
Beloved, let’s love one another; for love is from God, and everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.
Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God remains in us, and his love is perfected in us. By this we know that we remain in him and he in us, because he has given to us of his Spirit.
May the Lord cause you to increase and overflow in love for one another, and for all people, just as we also do for you.
Now as to the love of the brothers and sisters, you have no need for anyone to write to you, for you yourselves are taught by God to love one another.
In the Bible, love includes positive affection for others, but it also includes selfless actions, such as hospitality and generously giving to those in need (Romans 12:13). Jesus invites his followers to consider the radical way he loves and forgives them, and he tells them to do the same for both their friends and enemies without reservation or end (Luke 6:35, John 13:34).
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